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Mark Wingfield, pastor of First Baptist Church in Grottoes, is a columnist for The News Virginian. His column is published Saturdays.

During one of my recent weekly Facebook debates, I was told, regarding the abortion issue, that a woman should be allowed to do what she feels is right without anyone judging her.

Specifically, this person was saying that no one should tell a woman it is wrong to abort her unborn baby, if she feels that it is OK to do so. Judges 21:25 refers to a generation of immoral self-worshippers when it says that, “Everyone did what was right in his own eyes.” Perhaps that is the most concise way to summarize what this Facebook debater was really trying to say.

Let’s take a peek at what “everyone should be allowed to do what he or she feels is right in his own eyes” looks like when applied to other areas of life.

“OK, lady at Walmart. We’ve all had to wait in line to get checked out, and I think you should have to as well, but I can’t say anything because you should be allowed to do what you feel is right in your own eyes.”

“OK, racist restaurant owner. God made all people equal, and I don’t personally believe in discrimination, but I can’t say anything because you should be allowed to do what you feel is right in your own eyes.”

“OK, drunk frat boy. That girl on your bed has clearly told you that she does not want to have sex with you, but I can’t say anything because you should be allowed to do what you feel is right in your own eyes.”

“OK, middle-school bully. Picking on weaker kids is wrong, and I think you deserve a whooping, but I can’t say anything because you should be allowed to do what you feel is right in your own eyes.”

“OK, Hitler. Demoting a whole race of people to sub-human status seems wrong to me and could eventually get out of hand, but I can’t say anything because you should be allowed to do what you feel is right in your eyes.”

Anyone with a brain knows how stupid that is. Of course, some are saying my examples are flawed, but I’d have to ask, “By whose standards? Yours? His? Hers? Who gets to decide?”

After all, some folks truly think their time is more valuable than yours is and feel morally justified in cutting in line. Some people have been taught from birth all kinds of horrible things about people of a different race and feel completely right in keeping races separate in public places. Some young people under the influence of alcohol really believe that a girl’s choice of attire or her aggressive flirtation gives them the green light to take whatever they want from her sexually. Some kids feel picked on at home and feel it’s perfectly fine to pick on others at school or work when they can get away with it. Hitler believed he was right in his attempt to exterminate Jews and convinced many others that such a practice was acceptable.

In other words, these people all do what they do or did what they did believing that they are doing right, or, at least, that they are not doing wrong. Who gets to say that anyone at all is wrong, if we’re to just allow people to do whatever they personally feel is right? And if there is no absolute moral standard of right and wrong, again, who gets to say what’s what in any given scenario?

Of course, there is a moral right and wrong, which points to a moral right and wrong giver, that giver being God. We don’t get to do “whatever feels right in our own eyes,” because right and wrong is determined by a moral, all-powerful God, and what is right for one person is also right for everyone else, regardless of what they might “feel.”

We can argue about what is right and what is wrong, but we can never say something as foolish as, “Everyone gets to decide what is right or wrong for himself or herself based on how he or she feels.”

We can argue about whether abortion is right or wrong, but only the fool says, “It might not be right for you, but it is right for her because that’s how she feels.”

This way of ignorant thinking is nothing new, by the way, but what was wrong then is still wrong now.

This is so basic; all should be able to understand it.

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Mark Wingfield, pastor of First Baptist Church in Grottoes, is a columnist for The News Virginian. His column is published Saturdays.

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