Esse Quam Videri ~ Martha Tharrington Jeffreys Carr died on February 19, 2018, at Barrackside Farm in Albemarle County, her home of 61 years. She was born on January 16, 1923, in Hamlet, North Carolina, to Leita Vivien Smith and William Tharrington Jeffreys. Raised in the sandhills of North Carolina, she loved all things Tarheel- Chapel Hill, Carolina Inn, Celo and Linville in the Blue Ridge Mountains, and Atlantic Beach and New Bern on the coast. "Marty" graduated from Meredith College in Raleigh, N.C., in 1945. "Miss Meredith," Dean's List, President of Student Government, Who's Who in American Universities and Colleges, she excelled in every way, though she never made much of this. What she did make much of was a female professor of English who introduced her to Shakespeare and the pageantry of life that crossed his stage. A chemistry major, she took a job in a laboratory at the University of Virginia. On December 21, 1946, she married David Wilkinson Carr of Albemarle County at First Presbyterian Church in Raleigh, N.C. They lived at Barrackside Farm and Marty's life became one of family, six children, 14 grandchildren and 11 great-grandchildren. With grandchildren, she became "Martee." Of the on-going parade of family and friends that lived and visited Barrackside, Marty was the one who greeted you at the mailbox and stood on the side porch to wave good-bye. One watched the sun set over the Blue Ridge with her, anticipated the snow fall that would close the schools and leave the day for sledding and hot chocolate, licked the spoon from the white fluffy icing for the birthday cake. One came for Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, and Fourth of July- a checkered tablecloth on the porch, orange popsicles, a turkey with browned onions, a Christmas tree that filled the living room. Effortlessly and with impressive graciousness, she made Barrackside a familiar place of warmth and welcome. Marty was beautiful and with her kilts, pearls and lipstick had great presence. She had respect for herself and more importantly respect for life- life is to be treasured, enjoyed, and cheerfully lived. Always the little engine that could, Marty's positive attitude and confidence encouraged others to think of themselves with respect and confidence. Marty was a pi¤ata of information. About her family she knew everything. She was command central for the dissemination of peoples' whereabouts, birthdays, and anniversaries. She never forgot a meaningful event in your life. Moreover, her recall of dates, facts, and figures was the finest in the family and her opinions about Congress, political figures, medicine, and raising children were the firmest. Arranged zinnias and forsythia, a woohoo from upstairs, a tumbler of bourbon with a silver spoon, boundless energy, Martha Tharrington Jeffreys Carr will live forever in the hearts of her family. Marty's husband, David Wilkinson Carr, died April 6, 2016. Her sister, Vivien Jeffreys Barker, died April 19, 2016. She is survived by five children and their spouses, Jeffrey and Rob Dewey, Rebecca Carr and Rob Hawkins, George (deceased) and Randi Carr, David and Kathy (deceased) Carr, Martha and Cliff Fox, and Ashley and Arthur Smith. There are 14 grandchildren, Rebecca Anderson and Christopher Dewey; Alexander Hawkins, Elizabeth Voynov and David Hawkins; Caroline Stokes and Jessie Carr; Wilkinson Carr and Maurie Carr; Buie Fox and Ashley Fox; George Smith, Arthur Smith and Laney Smith . There are 11 great-grandchildren, McLean, Yates, Agnes, Reeves, Hayden, Paige, Madeline, Hannah, Carr, James, and Lawton. All were blessed to know Martee. Family and friends will celebrate Marty's life in April. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be sent to the Carr Local Outreach Fund at Olivet Presbyterian Church, 2575 Garth Road, Charlottesville, VA 22901.